“Anxiety And Perfectionism Is Self Abuse Of The Highest Order.”
Perfectionists focus so much more on their flaws over their assets. This is a problem because it breeds anxiety, and strengthens core beliefs that were engrained into them through their childhood and adolescent years.
Perfectionism is very much a cover up, an effort to gain control and power back from a childhood that was out of control
The perfectionist thinks that the more perfect they try and be, the more worthy they will feel. In reality the constant striving for perfectionism leads towards a path of unattainable ends, leaving the person fighting an uphill battle with anxiety on a daily basis.
For many perfectionists today, psychological maltreatment (concerted attack by an adult towards the development of a child’s sense of self and social competence) was ever-present during the early days of their lives. This paved the way for a self esteem and self worth that was below what was necessary to live a happy and fulfilling life.
Childhood emotional abuse can feel like it’s physical even though no hand was ever raised
As a perfectionist myself for many years, I thought my extremely high standards for my life and expectations were the way life had to be (until CBT practices were applied to my anxiety). I had to shoot for making each detail perfect, and give 120 percent in all my affairs thinking this would give way for a result that pleased me (and more-so my ego mind).
I realized that I was literally turning into a control freak which left me unhealthy in every sense of the word
In episode #116 of the anxiety guy podcast we’re looking into:
- Where anxiety and perfectionism began for a person
- How core beliefs shape a persons reality
- The real reason why anxiety and perfectionism is taking over more lives by the day