No Man’s Land
In tennis, there is an area of the court called “no man’s land,” located within the two feet in front of the baseline. This is the worst place to stand if you want to be able to return the ball. However, new players don’t know this and naturally tend to stand there. Instead of hitting the shots at the net or behind the baseline like the pros, they stand right where their opponent can hammer the ball at their feet, rendering them unable to return any hits. It is not until they learn not to stand there and learn the right places to stand instead that they can return the incoming shots, and achieve a successful game.
Likewise, there is a similar place in life called “no man’s land,” where it’s easier not to feel anything. In my experience working with people through the end the anxiety program, I’ve found that anxiety sufferers have the least amount of emotions throughout any given week due to the fear of feeling. They do this purposely. The fear of more loss, or more disappointment keeps anxiety sufferers in an emotional “no man’s land,” a place where depersonalization can manifest and the closest ones to that person just don’t understand why this person is so emotionless. Basically, if they stay in that “middle area” where they don’t feel too happy or too sad, then they won’t feel disappointed in the end. Of the few emotions these people do feel, most are negative.
A person who does not suffer from anxiety avoids “no man’s land” where they feel nothing. They are more willing to explore the highs and lows of daily emotions, since the fear for them is not present because they are willing to experience all the emotions life offers. Also they know how to bring themselves out of a negative state quickly, where as a generalized anxiety sufferer has a much more difficult time getting out of a negative funk.